Don’t Call It A Favor When You Let Me Cut The Line
Posted on July 9, 2014
I had the most wonderful trip to the Passport Office said nobody ever.
But this guy. THIS guy took it to a whole new level.
Here’s the short of it. I told him I couldn’t wait in line in the direct sun. I asked if I could mark my spot in line and then sit on the shady steps. He said I couldn’t wait on the steps. So I marked my spot in line and I sat in a shaded spot on the sidewalk.
5 minutes later he calls me over and tells me I can go in. And I know I know, I tend to get myself in trouble. But he needed to hear it. I said “You need to be nicer to people with disabilities”. What I meant to say was that he needed to be able to provide an alternative for those who can’t wait in a standing line or in a standing line in the sun. But I’m clumsy with words and that’s what came out. Plus, he basically needs to learn to be nicer to everyone.
So he followed me into the building and yelled, I mean YELLED at me about how he did me a favor. I tried to get a few words in, but that wasn’t happening. So I just waited for him to finish ranting and leave.
That being said, this is what I had hoped to say to him.
1. If you are ‘hosting’ a line. You need to provide options for those who can’t wait in that line. Because wherever there’s a line, there are going to be people who physically aren’t up for the challenge.
2. Never (I mean NEVER) tell someone with a disability that you are doing them a favor. Even if you are letting them cut.
3. Cutting in line has its perks. But it is more empowering to the disabled person when you don’t ‘let’ them cut but when you provide a route for them to proceed as everyone else. i.e. a shady seat until it’s their turn.
4. Please don’t loudly announce “everyone has some reason they don’t want to stand in line” when I tell you I can’t stand in line. It’s hard enough asking for assistance without being shamed.
5. Don’t make me cry. Really. Don’t. It doesn’t feel good.
6. You could use a couple deep breaths… and a desk job.